The Fifty Shades trilogy of steamy “mummy porn” books has well and truly put sex on the map for millions of couples worldwide. Retailers such as EdenFantasys enjoyed a huge surge in sales following the release of the long awaited film version of Fifty Shades of Grey. Not surprising really after viewers were titillated with the racy tale of virgin Ana’s conquest by sado-masochistic bad boy, Christian Grey.
Women everywhere are desperate to bring their bondage fantasies to life, so if you are one of them, or your partner is begging you to transform the bedroom into the “Red Room of Pain”, here are a few tips to help you bring your Fifty Shades fantasies to life with the aid of sex toys.
Spice Up Your Sex Life
Sex within a long-term relationship can get boring after a while. Making love to the same person week in and week out becomes repetitive. You know what to expect and even though it might be an immensely pleasurable experience, it is good to step out of your comfort zone.
Christian Grey is the stuff dreams are made of. Men want to be him and women want to be ravished by him. In reality we would probably find the man misogynistic and way too controlling, but in the realm of sexual fantasies, who doesn’t relish the idea of being blindfolded and spanked by a hunky millionaire with issues?
And that’s the point. Women often spend their waking lives multitasking, trying to hold everything together on multiple fronts, so relinquishing control in the bedroom is very appealing. Being the passive partner at the mercy of her dominant lover means a woman can step into Ana’s shoes for a short space of time. In a nutshell, Fifty Shades sex is all about sexual domination, so in order to create the right ambience you will need a few sex toy accessories:
- Blindfold – Losing your sense of sight means your other senses are much more enhanced. Use a silk scarf as a blindfold and let your lover tease you with mystery items. Feathers, ice cubes, or even a vibrator will all help to build the excitement to a climactic crescendo.
- Handcuffs – There has to be a strong element of trust to allow someone to handcuff you to the bed, but if you are up for it, make sure you agree a “safe word” first.
- Flogger or Paddle – Spanking is a massive turn on for many women (and men) because it increases blood flow to the genital region and enhances orgasms. In the book Christian Gray has a selection of leather floggers and wooden paddles, so why not be adventurous and see how one of these feels against your naked backside?
Fifty Shades sex can be as experimental or as vanilla as you like. They key is to try sex toys you are both comfortable with, which means you should talk about your fantasies first. Try reading your favorite sex scenes from the book aloud to each other and see where it takes you. Hopefully, to heaven and back!