How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 1 – Get In The Mood

The first time with a vibrator is like the first time with a partner, you’re not likely to jump straight in and do the deed if you aren’t in the right mood. Choose a time that suits you, relax, ensure that you are undisturbed and comfortable. You could dim the lights, put on a little music that chills you out but whatever you do make sure there is nothing to interrupt your fun. Whether you’re nervous about using a sex toy for the first time or full of excitement at the thought of exploring yourself getting the setting right will mean you get the most from your buzzy new friend.

How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 2 – Explore Yourself First

Make sure you know your own body before introducing yourself to a vibrator. Familiarise yourself with your sensitive erogenous zones, inside and out. Use your hands to explore yourself – neck, breasts, clitoris, labia and even inside your vagina, all will react differently to your touch and you can relate this to how and when to apply a vibrator to maximise your pleasure.

Using a Vibrator Step 3 – Understand Your Vibrator

Not all vibrators are created equally. Depending on the one you chose to purchase they may have one or many speeds, more often than not with different patterns of vibration. Vibes meant for internal use may ripple, thrust or undulate in a squirmy motion to massage you internally so make sure you understand how to control your new bedroom pal before letting it lose on your pleasure zones.

How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 4 – Start Gradually

Don’t switch the vibrator to maximum and plough straight in, you may find that you are more sensitive than you thought if this is the first time you have used a sex toy. You can always turn the power up, gradually but starting at full speed can leave your delicate areas tingling – and not in a good way.

How Do I Use A Vibrator, 5 – Get To Know Your External Pleasure Zones

There’s more to using a vibrator than plunging straight inside your vagina and hoping to find Nirvana at the flick of a switch. Every inch of your skin can enjoy a vibrator of any size or power. Granted not everyone will feel that moved by having a vibe run over their skin but every girl’s key pleasure zones, breasts, clitoris, vaginal lips and even the outside of their anus can enjoy the gentle caress of a vibrator. Try different settings and patterns if your vibrator has them and you will discover that each erogenous zone responds differently to different types of stimulation. Every woman is different, there is no “normal” so experiment – a lot!

How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 6 – Dip Inside

If you’re in the mood you’ll be more than ready by now to feel your new toy deep inside you. Remember though that not all vibrators are meant to be used internally and if you’re thinking of experiencing anal stimulation you should only use a vibe designed specifically for anal use. Similarly don’t try and use a small clit vibe inside your vagina you may lose your grip on it and have trouble retrieving it.

Different shapes of vibrator will help you enjoy different types of vaginal stimulation, some are simply tubular or shaped like a real penis, others have a shape specifically aimed at G Spot stimulation. Buying more than one vibe can ensure that you have a toy to match your mood, be that thrusting in and out or intensely massaging your G Spot.

How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 7 – Remember Lube

Don’t be shy to use a lube when enjoying a sex toy, vibrators included. Inside or outside the extra moisture means you can play better for longer. Generally we would recommend a good quality water based lubricant with no added flavours, don’t try a cooling or warming lube either until you are familiar with the effect they have on different parts of your body. Don’t go for silicone lube either because while they are long-lasting they can damage some of the materials used in some toys. Finally don’t use petroleum jelly or any other oil based lubricant as these can increase the risk of vaginal infections and damage your toys too.

How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 8 – Bring A Friend To Play

Vibrators don’t have to be just for you. You and your partner can use your vibrator during foreplay and even during sex. Allowing a partner to use a vibrator to pleasure you can make for a great build-up to penetration, or even a way of bringing you to orgasm without sexual intercourse. During penetration you can use a vibe to stimulate your own clitoris, labia or even their cock and balls, though if they are thrusting into you be careful! Of course with another woman you can both play with vibrators, using them to stimulate each other or yourself while the other watches. Many men like to watch a woman use a vibe to pleasure herself too so why not suggest this to him?

How Do I Use A Vibrator, Step 9 – Have Fun Inside And Out

With your partner is inside you one of the best ways to add to the pleasure is to use a clitoral stimulator like a small clit vibe or bullet on yourself.  Moving it around your lips and clit you and him will both feel the stimulation a vibe can provide as it grazes his cock and balls.

Have fun and keep trying out new ways to enjoy your vibe.