A Beginners Guide to Vibrators

Nexus Femme Cadence VibratorTrying something new in the bedroom, but don’t know where to start? If you’re in the market for a starter sex toy, a vibrator is great option. Vibrators are always a fantastic option for beginners because they’re not only simple and easy to use, but they’re versatile and can create different sensations for different people based on what speed is used and where they’re put.

In fact, vibrators have helped millions of women worldwide unlock their sensual enjoyment of the big O. But if you’re new to the glorious world of vibrators, don’t worry. This beginners guide will teach you the basics to help you two get know each other and start your relationship off right.

Begin with the Basics

 A vibrator is just one of the many sex toys out there designed to provide pleasure, often to the point of orgasm. Some vibrators are designed just to stimulate the clitoris, some will stimulate the G-spot similar to penetrative sex and some will do both at the same time.

With a vast array of shapes, sizes, designs and functions to choose from, beginners vibrators should be relatively simple to use and operate, yet still deliver a wide range of vibration patterns and speeds.

So when buying yourself a bedroom pal for the first time, the most helpful factors to assess are:

  • What does it do?
  • How does it work?
  • What pleasure points will it hit?

Answering these questions is a great starting point and will help you evaluate which vibe is going to best match your needs.

Know your own Pleasure

 Everyone’s preferences are different. Luckily there’s a great variety of vibrators out there to suit individual tastes and pleasure points.

Recent research shows that 50 and 75% of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation alone rather than sexual penetration. So if this sounds like you, you’ll want a toy that can deliver the right intensity and precision to help you achieve a clitoral orgasm. Consider trying an external vibrator like a bullet vibrator or wand massager that don’t require insertion.

Or perhaps you want to experience what penetrative sex would feel like, or figure out where your a G-Spot is. In this case, you’ll need a different type of vibrator. G-Spot or traditional vibrators such as a rabbit are a great option as you can slip the toy inside you for ultimate pleasure.

In the end no matter which type of toy you choose, just make sure to relax and enjoy yourself. As the saying goes – if it feels good, do it. For more information, please check out our guide ‘How Do I Use A Vibrator’.

Work your Way Up

 Another important consideration when choosing your first vibrator is buying a cheaper model that you can later upgrade once you’ve learned where and how you like to be stimulated. You don’t want to spend a fortune buying a toy that doesn’t work for your needs or body type. So the key is to strike a good balance between functionality and affordability.

 Be Materialistic where it Matters

When choosing your first vibrator, make sure it’s made from high-quality, body-safe materials. Stay away from sex toys that don’t specifically say on the packaging that they’re free of toxic chemicals, especially Phthalates. Avoid jelly and rubber toys that are difficult to clean effectively and go for silicone or plastic instead.

Also take into consideration whether you’ll require a waterproof toy or not. Most vibrators these days are waterproof, however some are not. So make sure to check first if you intend to use your new vibrator in the shower or bath.

Head Online

Thanks to the internet, doing your research and buying your first vibrator is easier than it’s ever been. When shopping online, go to websites that are great at providing educational and expert information on their toys.

With a huge selection available to you, it can be overwhelming when choosing your first vibrator so do your research and don’t rush into anything.

Bring a Buddy

Whether you’re shopping in a toy store or browsing online, shop with a friend or partner. No matter what you choose, shopping with someone you know and trust is not only fun, but informative too. It can also help take away the nerves and add a bit of excitement to your first purchase.

Start Slow

 For your first time, take it slow. Pick a toy that’s recommended for beginners and if you’re flying solo, experiment with something simple and work your way up to something with more bells and whistles.

Make sure you’re alone and won’t be interrupted, then simply turn it on and see how it feels. Move it around to experience the sensations on different areas and adjust the settings to find what works for you. Don’t be disappointed if you don’t reach orgasm your first few times – just focus on what feels good and you’ll get there eventually.



Alex reviews sex toys both solo and with his partner Suze, allowing him to give a unique perspective on adult products from a truly authoritative and experienced standpoint.